Encounter the opportunity to be authentic.
Margaret Williams said it best in her wonderful story "The Velveteen Rabbit":
“What is REAL?” the Rabbit asked the Skin Horse one day. “Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?”
“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, you become Real. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and you get very shabby.”
“I suppose you are Real?” said the Rabbit.
“The boy’s uncle made me Real many years ago,” said the Skin Horse. “Once you are Real, it lasts for always.“